Wednesday, November 24, 2004
Tell me what you really mean. Ask me what you want to be known. Show me what you need. I will tell you anything...
games
if you tell me everything...
Life would be easier if, we, as humans, didn't play mind games. Most of the time, we want to say what we are feeling or what we mean, but we can't; something inside of us holds us back, not letting our mouth formulate the words in a presentable fashion. We are afraid of people's reactions. Even more, we are afraid of the preconceived reactions that we think they will have. We don't want to deal with the effects of our words, no matter how necessary it is. With close friends, we become uncomfortable with a provocative question. We change topics, play the fool, or worse, lie.Does society clone us into this mentality?
Moreover, these mind games come into form between the male and female sexes. Most males claim that females are proffesional mind players and often find themselves confused or misinterpreting "signs". They wish that the woman would just say what she means and wants. This could partially be due to man's lack of creativity, or dumbfoundedness. Yet, when a woman feels threatened, challenged, or confused herself, she feels as if she needs to compete to win "the ball back in her court". Let the games begin. The man is feeling confused so he sends out mixed signals. The woman, perplexed, feels that she needs to contest these signals, and in essence, the communication lines become so tangled, that an argument or a breakdown is usually the way people proceed to fix it.
Allow me to present a solution:
The moment one feels confused,challenged, threatened, etc. why doesn't one just choose to speak their feelings or mind? If one really cares about a certain individual, wouldn't one avoid pandemonium at all costs?
Therefore, the next time you feel any befuddlement, quickly resolve it, for your sake and the sake of everyone elses. It will lead you and your significant other to having less and less altercations because everything is known and out in the open.
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